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on Jun 1, 2007

I really don't know what this place does or is, but I am so desperate that I am putting my plea out here. Today I applied for a USDA rural home loan, and the woman walking me through it told me that I will probably be denied because I am too poor. And it will take 6 months to even get a denile.

I have tried everything that I know to do, as you can read in the letter I wrote and have sent to hundreds of people and places. I felt that the USDA loan was my last hope as they are for very low income, which my yearly income is $7.476.00. I feel like I have nothing to lose by posting this here, as I have been rejected so many times that I am numb. I Do pray that someone out here will know what to do? I thank you for reading in advance, as I know it is quite long, but explains it all. Thank you.

This is a plea for help.
I would first like to say that I am willing to sign release forms for people who would need my information. I add this here, as I have just learned that people are scamming even churches, where I also tried to find aid. I am NOT a scammer what so ever! And my records will prove that.
I am a 42 year old, mentally disabled woman who desperately needs a home. I am seeking advice, knowledge, and even prayer.
I would like to tell you my story, in the hopes that it would be of help with the situation that I have been in for over the past 3 years.
I was married in March of 1999, and then ruthlessly kicked out of my marriage and my home 1 year later.
I then moved in with my parents. We learned that my beloved Mother was diagnosed with Glioblastoma Multiforme, stage 4 and stage 5. Brain cancer.
I was her sole care giver, 24/7, sleeping with baby monitors between mine and my parents room, as my Father could not wake up to her needs. The tumors were upon her motor skills area and she could do nothing to help herself, so I did it for her. I slept in the hospital when she had to be admitted, and stayed with her every night. When her time came, 1 1/2 years later, I was with her when she passed.
She was the most loved and cherished person in my life.
After her passing that left me and Dad alone in his trailer...living as best as we could (my Father is 70). Then one day arrived a man giving us a 30 day eviction notice. We lost the trailer. I was frantically packing our belongings while my Father worked...he found himself a place to stay, but I couldn't go with him because I have animals (who are like children to me). He told me to call my estranged husband and told him he could have my Mother's car, and a Morgan shed if he would allow me to rent one of his spare rooms. Mark, who is now my ex husband allowed me and my animals to move in.
Before I moved in I had a nervous breakdown. I was taken to the Boerne Mental Health Clinic, and was diagnosed with the following disorders;
Agoraphobia with panic disorder
social anxiety and anti social
personality disorder
bi~polar with hypo mania
manic depression
ADHD
OCD
dyslexia
chronic insomnia
I feel that I should add that I am geographically challenged, I have no sense of direction and cannot go anywhere if I don't already know exactly where it is and exactly how to get back. I Used to live in Boerne, so I am familiar with it, and having lived in Bandera these past 3 years, I have gotten familiar with it, and I am a little familiar with Comfort, but not by much. This is all in Texas.
I have been put on medications, I receive SSI, and I have medicaid.
Since I have been renting this room form Mark (ex husband), I have not been able to save one red cent because he is always taking it for one reason or another, and I cannot say no because he will kick me out in a heartbeat, and like I mentioned I have animals to protect, specifically 5 dogs, 2 cats and 2 birds. The only thing I own is a 1991 Cadillac in poor condition, that Mark uses instead of his car.
He has recently developed a love interest, and he brings her to his home, and I hide in my room.
He would like to move her and her 2 children in...which means that I am in dire straights.
I have done everything I know to do in seeking a home that can accommodate my animals, my income and myself the entire time that I've been here. I have called many agencies, and they speak of section 8 housing and vouchers, which I don't understand, but they said no animals are allowed, and they say it is in the city. I am very agoraphobic and anti social, and have learned while living here in Bandera, in the country, that I do much better with my disabilities.
I have written to helping hands, and many other's that I cannot remember the names of, and I never receive any communications back from anyone I contact, including HUD.
I have spoken to Clients rights and services, Boerne, Bandera, comfort, and other human services. I have also had contact with Senator Cornyn and Governor Smith. I recently had an interview with Adult Protective Services, and the man said that he sees my situation as hopeless, as rent is high in Texas, and with my income, I probably wouldn't even be able to get electricity, or be able to buy dog food, he then told me that I just have bad luck!
As you can now see, I have tried all of the ones that I know about. Are there other's out there that can help a disabled woman, with animals, who has a fixed and small income to get a home of her own? I am seeking a trailer/home/fixer upper on a small area of land, that I can rent to own.
That is all I am seeking, a home that no one can kick me out of ever again, hopefully a home that can be mine, and in an area that would be beneficial to my disorders, and that I am familiar with, and that will let me keep my animals. Who ARE my children, I have saved each and every one from death and the oldest one has been with me for 14 years, and the youngest 1 year, they are also my sole companions in my life. Which is another reason for my need to be out of the city.
I hope that I explained this well, and that I don't come off looking like a beggar...but I am working with an 8th grade education, on top of my disorders, and the awful stress that I have been living under for so long, and the frustration of not being able to find the help myself, and also not receiving replies when I do find something that I think might help.
I am a very shy and private person, and I am humbling myself once again, in hopes that someone who reads this may know some things that can help me.
I pray that this will be received, acknowledged and responded to, as I am at the end of my rope.
God Bless
karla gray
tattybearfreak@gmail.com

Categories: am disabled and poor, am going to be homeless, Is there any resources for me, need a pemanent home, need advice and prayers, too poor for help
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10. karla's page posted on Jun 8, 2007

Thank you Teri =0) I am actually having some troubles finding a company to finance a trailer! There is always a snafu with me lol. Bless you and thank you so very much for your prayers! karly

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9. Mist Teri posted on Jun 8, 2007

Best Wishes Karla, A single wide trailer has different financing than a traditional home. There may be some light at the end of the tunnel for you especially if your dad is assisting. My prayers are with you. Mist Teri

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8. karla's page posted on Jun 7, 2007

I must thank all of you for your help and prayers! Bless each and every one of you! =0) HUD rejected me for some reason or another, and I applied for a USDA home loan? OMG! IF I borrowed $5k, I would end up paying them back $12K ! But what I really wanted to say, is that My Dad has found a trailer(single wide) with it's own small plot of land. He is going to see if there is a lender that will finace him (very few will do single wides?) as soon as we get the info we need from the seller. And I will get to keep my animals! =0) I am praying so very very hard for this! I am also praying that the payments are low enough so that I can afford them! I will certainly let y'all know what becomes of this, and if you don't mind me asking? Could you pray for this to happen? I soooo need a break for a change, the past 7 years of my life have been filled with loss, pain, grief and more bad luck than any one person deserves! I sure do appreciate you guys =0) And I thank you so very much! Karly =0)

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7. Mist Teri posted on Jun 7, 2007

You definitely sound like you qualify for section 8. I have attached the link for you. The problem is that it is not for home purchase but instead home rental. You may want to seriously consider this option. As posted in one of the other posts, many of the programs offered for home purchase have income guidelines and your income based on the information provided falls short. Another problem you face is having so many animals. That maintenance of those pets will dip into your household budget and if you do consider section 8, 9 times out of 10 no landlord is going to accept all of those animals. Be good to yourself first and I hope that you find a happy ending to all of this. http://www.hud.gov/pr ogdesc/voucher.cfm

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6. Elaine of TSA posted on Jun 2, 2007

Karla: Could you possibly be able to acquire a housing voucher for disabled which would allow access to homeownership voucher which would subsidise the mtge payment? http://www.hud.gov /offices/pih/pha/contacts/stat es/tx.cfm http://www.hud.go v/offices/pih/programs/hcv/hom eownership/ What families are eligible to apply for homeownership vouchers? Families must meet these requirements:  First-time homeowner or cooperative member.  No family member has owned or had ownership interest in their residence for at least three years.  Except for cooperative members, no member of the family has any ownership interest in any residential property.  Minimum income requirement. Except in the case of disabled families, the qualified annual income of the adult family members who will own the home must not be less than the Federal minimum hourly wage multiplied by 2,000 hours. For disabled families, the qualified annual income of the adult family members who will own the home must not be less than the monthly Federal Supplemental Security Income (SSI) benefit for an individual living alone multiplied by 12. The PHA may also establish a higher minimum income requirement for either or both types of families. Except in the case of an elderly or disabled family, welfare assistance is not counted in determining whether the family meets the minimum income requirement.  Employment requirement. Except in the case of elderly and disabled families, one or more adults in the family who will own the home is currently employed on a full-time basis and has been continuously employed on a full-time basis for at least one year before commencement of homeownership assistance.  Additional PHA eligibility requirements. The family meets any other initial eligibility requirements set by the PHA.  Homeownership counseling. The family must attend and satisfactorily complete the PHA's pre-assistance homeownership and housing counseling program. What are monthly homeownership expenses? Monthly homeownership expenses include: 1. Mortgage principal and interest, 2. Mortgage insurance premium, 3. Real estate taxes and homeowner insurance, 4. PHA allowance for utilities, 5. PHA allowance for routine maintenance costs, 6. PHA allowance for major repairs and replacements, 7. Principal and interest on debt to finance major repairs and replacements for the home, and 8. Principal and interest on debt to finance costs to make the home accessible for a family member with disabilities if the PHA determines it is needed as a reasonable accommodation. How much financial assistance can PHAs provide in each voucher? The PHA uses its normal voucher program payment standard schedule to determine the amount of subsidy. The housing assistance payment (HAP) is the lesser of either the payment standard minus the total tenant payment or the family's monthly homeownership expenses minus the total tenant payment. The PHA may make the HAP payment directly to the family or to the lender. What is the total monthly tenant payment? For purposes of calculating the amount of financial assistance to be provided by the PHA, the monthly tenant payment is generally 30% of the family's adjusted monthly income. For more information about how to determine total tenant payment contact your local PHA. What do I have to pay each month? You have to pay at least the total tenant payment (approximately 30% of adjusted monthly income). However, if you purchase a home that has monthly expenses higher than those covered by the total of the financial assistance provided by the PHA together with the tenant payment (30% of income), any additional amount will have to be paid by the family. To keep families from purchasing a home that will result in a payment the family cannot afford, the PHA, may set affordability limits for their program. Do families have to purchase a home in the jurisdiction where the PHA issued the voucher? No. Families that are eligible for homeownership assistance may purchase a home outside the initial jurisdiction if the PHA in the new jurisdiction administers the homeownership voucher program and receives new families into the program. However, the family may only use the voucher to purchase a unit in an area where the family is income eligible at admission to the program. How long can a family receive assistance under this program? There is no time limit for an elderly household or a disabled family. For all other families, there is a mandatory term limit of 15 years if the initial mortgage incurred to finance purchase of the home has a term that is 20 years or longer, and for all other cases the maximum term of homeownership assistance is 10 years. What regulations cover this program? The Regulations are found in 24 CFR Part 982 (particularly see sections 625-642).

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5. Elaine of TSA posted on Jun 2, 2007

Karla: Have you considered searching for animal rescue organizations/farms in rural areas which need workers to live on site and work w/animals? You may be able to work at a job you love and meet your needs for housing and caring for your own pets.

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4. Elaine of TSA posted on Jun 2, 2007... modified on Jun 2, 2007

Nope - they have programs to assist people by building and or repairing homes for low income and or disabled. Google habitat for humanity + TX and select the one in your area. See the following example. http://www.austinhab itat.org/

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3. LA9052 posted on Jun 2, 2007

Habitat for humanity? Thought they just built houses.

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2. Elaine of TSA posted on Jun 2, 2007... modified on Jun 2, 2007

Karla: Have you tried contacting a social worker & habitat for humanity?

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1. ekikaseven posted on Jun 1, 2007

Lord, PLease provide this woman with a home of her own. Provide for all of her needs. Comfort her over the loss of her mother. Heal her emotional wounds. Be with her. Amen.

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